Necrotic Obsession

So yea, my gf apparently loves dirty talking, but i've never done that before, and i was wondering, what the hell do you say?

I'm really confused on the whole matter and anytime she starts talking im just left with a blank stare...

We're into BDSM so i was hoping i could get some advice on like what to say, and what not to say, b/c im sure some few choice words could end a night on the town...

Read some literotica.

you wouldnt happen to know what i could read would you?

any favorite stories? or am i forced to go to my grandma's house and snatch her books with Fabio on a horse...

I just lent this book to a good friend of mine. It is one of my all time favorite pieces of fluff.


Total Surrender
http://www.amazon.com/Total-Surrender-C ... 0312537549

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literotica.com

Either way I would suggest adapting to new age Literotica as the old ones seem to use more metaphor to describe sex. Fabio on a horse is outdated. Look for BDSM sites, I can post some in a while, I am a member to a few, but not currently active. Are you more of a Dom or Sub or Switch? You should learn or already know most of the terminology... Just depends how much energy you want to use to get into that lifestyle.

I switch, i have too little an attention span to stick to one side honestly xD

But yea okay thanks for the help, im liking this literotica site :D

your welcome!


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i know im on collar me, and adult space. I havent joined the others yet I dont think. Still looking. Some of these are for meeting other like minded freaks... and some are meant for BDSM, and some for polyamory or swingers... To get to know more people who can coach you on how to approach this.... It really helps to have someone that knows. I'd have to say witht the right guy I'd be a sub. But with the wrong guy I'd be Dom... As you can see I hold a biased opinion of how I see BDSM. So for the most part I have switched between both. But I dont get into the whole tying your girlfriend to a post and watching her pee on the ground stuff. no.. sir... Collars okay, golden showers no. Also you might think about investing in nipple clamps, apparently they are popular amongst the freaks. :p

Basically assuming the first time you'd Dom, it boils down to bringing her as close to climax as possible and not allowing her to cum until you say its okay. If she fails, then you punish with whips and chains and handcuffs. Or whatever floats your boat. Then I dont know in most books its all like suck my dick blah blah, and you cant use hands while doing it so basically your skull fucking them. Being all rough and shit. You take what you want and if it suits you or arouses you to see your woman cum then you "allow" her to. Its about being in charge. One of the most important things is to come up with a safe word so that if you take it too far, she has a way to back out and then the session is over.

Basic rules of being submissive, you have to have your eyes down cast stand legs shoulder width apart, and your arms behind your back. You only speak when spoken to and always address your master as either sir or master, or whatever they tell you. You obey and if/when you fail then your punished. Often being punished has both pain and pleasure. So yeah... Thats my .2 cents.

Okay cool thanks, yea i've always wanted to try S/m, all i've done is bondage so its a bit like riding a rusty bike i suppose.

LOL your welcome. I got into RP with my last b/f and it worked pretty well... Theres still alot I havent tried. I couldnt stay sub with him though because I wanted to challenge him. I guess I'm just a massochist. Its all fun and games until someone gets hurt LOL.